Midlife Messages http://midlifemessages.com how to change you life, spiritual support for midlife women , women over 40, baby boomer women, Fri, 10 Oct 2008 19:15:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.5 en More Mis-messages about Midlife http://midlifemessages.com/more-mis-messages-about-midlife/111/ http://midlifemessages.com/more-mis-messages-about-midlife/111/#comments Fri, 10 Oct 2008 19:14:46 +0000 admin Change Women Midlife Wisdom Baby Boomers How to Change Your Life Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles http://midlifemessages.com/more-mis-messages-about-midlife/111/ How many times have you heard yourself or your friends say, “I’m losing it”. EEKS… What are we doing to ourselves? Our words create our reality and if you are referring to forgetting things as you get older, I’d like to encourage you to reframe the experience. Isn’t it great that we forget a lot of our past - and even sometimes that we forget what we are saying at the moment? What do I mean?

Well, I don’t know about you, but, the memories I want to replay in my head are the ones where I was victorious, where I felt unconditional love and where I was at my peak. I remember these without hesitation. The other stuff — I may as well forget. Most of us dwell too much in our past anyway. We think it’s who we are when in fact, it’s no longer our truth. So, forgetting the past can be a very good thing.

What about forgetting mid-sentence what you were about to say? I find these moments sobering and they give me a chance to get centered and to ask myself, is this what I want to be thinking and saying right now? In other words, it keeps me more conscious - and that’s a good thing.

What about you? How do you feel about forgetting? Let’s hear from you here now.

]]> http://midlifemessages.com/more-mis-messages-about-midlife/111/feed/ Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles: Redefining Over the Hill http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-redefining-over-the-hill/110/ http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-redefining-over-the-hill/110/#comments Tue, 07 Oct 2008 13:58:18 +0000 admin Law of Attraction http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-redefining-over-the-hill/110/ How do you like hearing the words, Over the Hill? What is that supposed to mean? It has a ring that seems to say that life is on the decline. Yes, we hear that often. There are lots of jokes about how we decline with age rather than that we are finally reaching our potential and living the lives we have longed to live. Most of the people I know who have reached midlife might be considered over the hill if we think of the hill as the chase and the climb that we feel must take place when we are younger. Midlife becomes a time to stop the struggle and the need to get on top of it all.

Wayne Dyer has a new movie coming out - called Ambition to Meaning. This is what can happen to us when we reach midlife. We let go of the drive, the ambition to become something. We stop trying to amass things to make us feel important. We let go of the struggle, the striving and the belief that we are not enough. That’s the hill I wanted to get over and DID!

I truly believe that life is meant to be lived by inspiration rather than motivation. We are motivated to do more, be more, have more when we are younger. We work hard; We set goals; We continually look to the day when we’ll be “there”. Then, we discover that the ‘there’ isn’t what life is about - it’s the process. We learn to live in the present moment. No, not giving up dreams. But, knowing that who we have become in the process is so much more important than what we think we have to prove.

More to follow…lots more…. but, for now. I’d like to hear your comments….

]]> http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-redefining-over-the-hill/110/feed/ Changing Midlife Messages for Women in the Age of Miracles http://midlifemessages.com/changing-midlife-messages-for-women-in-the-age-of-miracles/109/ http://midlifemessages.com/changing-midlife-messages-for-women-in-the-age-of-miracles/109/#comments Mon, 06 Oct 2008 14:40:16 +0000 admin Change Women Midlife Reinvention Baby Boomers How to Change Your Life Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles http://midlifemessages.com/changing-midlife-messages-for-women-in-the-age-of-miracles/109/ This past weekend I attended the Hay House event, I CAN DO IT in Tampa, FL.  Marianne Williamson’s talk on Midlife, comparing our personal growth and change to what is happening in our world was awesome.  She gave us all hope and reminded us that we all went through criseses in our younger years and we are here to tell about it.  The doom and gloom in our ‘economy’ and threats of terror are the world’s indication that it is going through puberty!!  Interesting concept — and very stirring message.  If you get a chance to listen to it, I highly recommend it.  Check out Hay House offerings.  If you haven’t read Marianne’s latest book, The Age of Miracles, I also highly recommend that.  My new book is a bit different from Marianne’s — because our experiences have been different — but the basic message is similar — change is not only possible, it is inevitable. And as Barbara Marx Hubbard always says, “our crisis is our birth.”  It’s time to be re-born.

]]> http://midlifemessages.com/changing-midlife-messages-for-women-in-the-age-of-miracles/109/feed/ A Midlife Conversation http://midlifemessages.com/a-midlife-conversation/108/ http://midlifemessages.com/a-midlife-conversation/108/#comments Thu, 02 Oct 2008 18:04:53 +0000 admin Law of Attraction Abraham-Hicks Women Midlife Baby Boomers Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles http://midlifemessages.com/a-midlife-conversation/108/ I had an interesting conversation last night with some of my friends who have a few years on me. They were excited about what I am doing. We have never really had any mentors to show us the positive aspects of aging, they both agreed. All we ever heard was - hide the wrinkles, watch the crows feet, and by all means don’t go grey.

What are these messages trying to tell us? It’s not okay to get old? I used to think that the world was prejudiced towards men and now I am seeing a distinct prejudice toward youth. Maybe it’s always been there and I never noticed it before - having been among the youth - but I really feel such a strong call now to change these messages. It’s truly time to reinvent midlife.

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]]> http://midlifemessages.com/a-midlife-conversation/108/feed/ Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles: What are the mis-messages we’ve received? http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-what-are-the-mis-messages-weve-received/107/ http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-what-are-the-mis-messages-weve-received/107/#comments Tue, 30 Sep 2008 17:52:52 +0000 admin Law of Attraction Change Women Midlife Reinvention Wisdom Baby Boomers How to Change Your Life http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-what-are-the-mis-messages-weve-received/107/ I’m reading Marianne Williamson’s latest book again and it’s helping to evoke some of my own ideas about midlife. Her life and mine have been very different and while we are on similar paths, we come to some different conclusions or at least different viewpoints.

It’s made me wonder about what YOUR viewpoints on midlife are or have been? I’m writing these days on Messages that Women, in particular, have received about midlife.

As an example, I like to watch makeover shows — -not the extreme ones — but, things like What Not to Wear and How Do I Look. While I usually like those shows and love the way they help women with their self-esteem, one thing I noticed is that everyone they work with is YOUNG…. say 20 -30 mostly. Many times, when one of them isn’t dressing well, they say to her — You look 60! EEKS — I find myself cringing at the thought that that’s how these fashion icons see 60 year olds. I’ve passed 60 and I pride myself on the way I dress. I want to be a mentor and a model for what is possible.

What about you? What message do you see out there about being a midlife woman (or older?) Please post your comments here…You’ll be helping yourself as well as those who are following us in a better world!

]]> http://midlifemessages.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-what-are-the-mis-messages-weve-received/107/feed/ Create Your Own Mind Movie http://midlifemessages.com/create-your-own-mind-movie/102/ http://midlifemessages.com/create-your-own-mind-movie/102/#comments Thu, 11 Sep 2008 22:38:10 +0000 admin Law of Attraction "The Secret" Goal Setting Change Abraham-Hicks Women Midlife Reinvention Baby Boomers How to Change Your Life http://midlifemessages.com/create-your-own-mind-movie/102/ To find the system that I used to create this mind movie:

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Dr. Toni

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